When I was asked to write a book for the Forbidden Fantasies miniseries in Blaze, my mind immediately went to a fantasy I’d toyed with in my February 2008 release One Wild Wedding Night: role-playing.

I don’t have to wonder too hard why the fantasy appeals to me. My hubby and I met doing community theater (I was Anne Boleyn and he was the Duke of Norfolk sentencing me to death in Anne of the Thousand Days!) I did a lot of acting in my younger years, as did he, and all three of our girls have inherited the theater bug. I like disappearing into a role, playing someone else. So I have no problem thinking about all the sexy ways people could use that theatrical talent.

Then there were those books 101 Nights of Grrreat Sex (which I got for hubby) and 101 Nights of Grrreat Romance (which he got for me….lololol!)

Anybody else remember those? They were these big books filled with fantasies. You’d tear out a page, carefully open it and it would instruct you on a fantasy/scenario to enact. Some were stupid. Some were incredibly hot. Some (like many positions in the Kama Sutra) seemed veritably impossible, if not physically painful.

All were…intriguing, to say the least.

I didn’t have to go back to those books to think up some sexy play-acting scenarios for Reese and Amanda, the hero and heroine of PLAY WITH ME. There are some that just immediately come to mind: hooker and john, cat burglar and victim, cop and perp—yes, they’re all there.

But here’s my favorite: strangers in a bar. Have you ever played it? (I’m not asking about your sex life, I swear. ) I’m just wondering if you’re ever considered the whole idea of flirting/picking-up someone you’ve been with for years, as a way to spice up your relationship.

Frankly, it’s not about the sex, despite what happens with Tony and Gloria Santori in One Wild Wedding Night (elevator sex…whew!) It’s just fun to try to recapture that rush you feel early in a relationship, when you don’t totally know the person. Bruce and I have been married for 24 years…believe me, we know each other. But sometimes it’s just fun to pretend we don’t, to talk the way we did when we were first going out, getting to know each other’s likes and dislikes—what the other person will order (rather than automatically knowing) what they do for a living. Flirting, bantering, getting that instant rush as you feel this spark of attraction and wonder where it’ll go.

Believe me, it’s a lot of fun and it’s very easy, as long as you’re both willing to be a little adventurous. (And to perhaps feel a little silly, at first. Your hubby/boyfriend might roll his eyes…at least, until he realizes you’re setting him up for an evening of naughty, sexy fun!)

Here’s how. Just send your hubby an email, tell him you’re going to meet him in the bar of X restaurant, that you’ll be wearing a red blouse and waiting for a sexy man to offer to buy you a drink. (Unless he’s pretty thick, I’m sure he’ll realize he’s the sexy man…lol! But you might want to spell it out just in case.)

When he shows up and asks if he can join you, play along. Try to stick with a “just met” conversation, talk to each other like you haven’t in a long time. Be flirtatious and suggestive and try to recapture whatever spark you felt in the very beginning.

Even if it’s only for ten minutes, and then you revert back to normal married-night-out, at least it’ll be something different than immediately launching into conversations about the crappy work day or the kids’ grades or the mortgage payment.

And who couldn’t use ten minutes of freedom now and then?

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